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Anyone can be a victim of domestic abuse, regardless of gender, age, ethnicity, socio-economic status, sexuality or background.

Emotional Abuse

Does your partner, or former partner, ever:

• belittle you, or put you down?

• blame you for the abuse or arguments?

• deny that abuse is happening, or play it down?

• isolate you from your family and friends?

• stop you going to college or work?

• make unreasonable demands for your attention?

• accuse you of flirting or having affairs?

• tell you what to wear, who to see, where to go, and what to think?

• control your money, or not give you enough to buy food or other essential things?

• threaten or intimidate you?

Threats and Intimidation

Does your partner, or former partner, ever:

• threaten to hurt or kill you?

• destroy things that belong to you?

• stand over you, invade your personal space?

• threaten to kill themselves or the children?

• read your emails, texts or letters?

• harass or follow you?

Physical Abuse

The person abusing you may hurt you in a number of ways.

Does your partner, or former partner, ever:

• slap, hit or punch you?

• push or shove you?

• bite or kick you?

• burn you?

• choke you or hold you down?

• throw things?

• abuse you sexually?

Sexual abuse can happen to anyone, whether they’re male or female.

Sexual Abuse

Does your partner, or former partner, ever:

• touch you in a way you don’t want to be touched?

• make unwanted sexual demands?

• hurt you during sex?

• pressure you to have unsafe sex – for example, not using a condom?

• pressure you to have sex?

If your partner, or former partner, has sex with you when you don’t want to, this is rape.

Have you ever felt afraid of your partner or former partner?

Have you ever changed your behaviour because you’re afraid of what your partner, or former partner, might do?

If you think you may be in an abusive relationship, there is help available.

Report it

If you, or someone you know, is a victim of domestic abuse find out how to report domestic abuse.

Click here:       Report Domestic Abuse

If you are in immediate danger, call 999 and ask for the police.

If you are deaf or can’t verbally communicate:

You can register with the  Emergency SMS service

Or  

Text REGISTER to 999.

The London Borough of Hillingdon website has more information about support for people who are experiencing domestic abuse.

Click here:     Domestic abuse information in Hillingdon